Email from David
> I'm jealous of my wealth, which is enormous. I'd sooner give you
> $1,000 than loan you $100. I'm letting Rose hang around because I
> don't want her to get a chunk of my fortune, though she costs me to
> keep, in the style to which she has no doubt become accustomed. I'm
> worried about my son's future though I haven't done anything to
> direct it. I'm liberal, but wish he were not gay. My daughter
> puzzles me, but she charms me, too. I see her put on of a Brooklyn
> dialect as a means of cutting out her own space in the world,
> something my son may be trying to do by being gay, but in him, this
> irritates me.
>
> Good.
>
> I'm having trouble with the relationship of my jealousy of my wealth
> to keeping Rose around--it just seems so much cheaper to toss her off
> with a couple million bucks, if I'm worth so much.
PRIVATE INFO EDITED
>
> Okay. Intellectually, I get that this may not be how other people
> frame it. I have a family history which puts liberal values and
> personal generosity at the center of an ethos of helping others and
> making the world better. PRIVATE INFO EDITED
>
> My grandfather could never understand WASPish parsimony or greed.
> The corporate scandals of the last five years disgust him (hmm--this
> is useful, actually.)
>
> Okay.
>
> Expose myself rather than hide in 'getting it right.'
>
> So.
>
> When would I have rather cut my own arm off rather than give my
> rightful inheritance to an interloper?
>
EDITED
>
> Why?
>
> Something is coming in on me as I type.... Strong feeling, but no
> images yet. I'll try to stay with it.
>
> About this being "your movie:" I'm still stuck in wanting to get it
> right. I feel the urge to close down. Grrrrr. I'll try to stick
> with the fear rather than evade it, expose myself.
>
> David!
MY RESPONSE:
David
I like what you're thinking. Now let the bits about Joey and Tara go.
Relate to them as your classmates. I know many parents of teenagers
that feel as if they don't know them. Let go of your ideal that you would
be a different parent. Indulge your selfishness. Let yourself be charmed by Tara but seduced by her physical attractiveness as well. Look at her, check her out. What has your baby girl become?
Allow yourself to not relate to them. To scoff, quietly and openly, at
their immaturity and lack of life experience.
One feature of this retreat is to let go of too much intellectual
preparation By limiting the info given to actors as well as limiting the
time in which to get it right.
What can you reveal about yourself in this role?
That you wouldn't want your son to be gay?
Not my first choice.
That a nineteen year old girl turns you on?
Tara is sexy.
That you want to punish opportunism?
Goddamn, entitled users!
That you're afraid of yourself?
I sure am.
Thank you for letting me know your conflict with parsimonious waspish ways.
I'm going to give you an adjustment. None of your wealth is liquid.
You've blown all of your liquid assets on wild e(go)ose chases. (a big
stretch, i know)
You may never have to work a day in your life, but you can't do what you
want with your money.
College will be paid. Your kids have their own separate trusts and are
not relying on your inheritance. Credit card bills from your fiance's
shopping sprees will be paid. None of your property is in your name.
Cash withdrawals are limited.
Think of the pre-nup as protecting you from looking foolish rather than
from giving any money to Rose. Without it she would realize that you have
little as soon as you married. That might prompt her exit. However the pre-nup
may be a gambit to keep your status in her eyes. She may not agree to not get anything, but she'll live the life without knowing there was nothing to get in the first place. It's risky. That's precisely why you haven't presented it to her yet.
Let's keep it simple. How about this: Stay away from Rose. Ignore her.
Let her take care of house cleaning and cooking. Evade any questions of
setting a wedding date. Assume she's fucking around, as you are. Fucking
your house guests right under your nose is another story, of course.
Thanks again for your work on this,
nc
> $1,000 than loan you $100. I'm letting Rose hang around because I
> don't want her to get a chunk of my fortune, though she costs me to
> keep, in the style to which she has no doubt become accustomed. I'm
> worried about my son's future though I haven't done anything to
> direct it. I'm liberal, but wish he were not gay. My daughter
> puzzles me, but she charms me, too. I see her put on of a Brooklyn
> dialect as a means of cutting out her own space in the world,
> something my son may be trying to do by being gay, but in him, this
> irritates me.
>
> Good.
>
> I'm having trouble with the relationship of my jealousy of my wealth
> to keeping Rose around--it just seems so much cheaper to toss her off
> with a couple million bucks, if I'm worth so much.
PRIVATE INFO EDITED
>
> Okay. Intellectually, I get that this may not be how other people
> frame it. I have a family history which puts liberal values and
> personal generosity at the center of an ethos of helping others and
> making the world better. PRIVATE INFO EDITED
>
> My grandfather could never understand WASPish parsimony or greed.
> The corporate scandals of the last five years disgust him (hmm--this
> is useful, actually.)
>
> Okay.
>
> Expose myself rather than hide in 'getting it right.'
>
> So.
>
> When would I have rather cut my own arm off rather than give my
> rightful inheritance to an interloper?
>
EDITED
>
> Why?
>
> Something is coming in on me as I type.... Strong feeling, but no
> images yet. I'll try to stay with it.
>
> About this being "your movie:" I'm still stuck in wanting to get it
> right. I feel the urge to close down. Grrrrr. I'll try to stick
> with the fear rather than evade it, expose myself.
>
> David!
MY RESPONSE:
David
I like what you're thinking. Now let the bits about Joey and Tara go.
Relate to them as your classmates. I know many parents of teenagers
that feel as if they don't know them. Let go of your ideal that you would
be a different parent. Indulge your selfishness. Let yourself be charmed by Tara but seduced by her physical attractiveness as well. Look at her, check her out. What has your baby girl become?
Allow yourself to not relate to them. To scoff, quietly and openly, at
their immaturity and lack of life experience.
One feature of this retreat is to let go of too much intellectual
preparation By limiting the info given to actors as well as limiting the
time in which to get it right.
What can you reveal about yourself in this role?
That you wouldn't want your son to be gay?
Not my first choice.
That a nineteen year old girl turns you on?
Tara is sexy.
That you want to punish opportunism?
Goddamn, entitled users!
That you're afraid of yourself?
I sure am.
Thank you for letting me know your conflict with parsimonious waspish ways.
I'm going to give you an adjustment. None of your wealth is liquid.
You've blown all of your liquid assets on wild e(go)ose chases. (a big
stretch, i know)
You may never have to work a day in your life, but you can't do what you
want with your money.
College will be paid. Your kids have their own separate trusts and are
not relying on your inheritance. Credit card bills from your fiance's
shopping sprees will be paid. None of your property is in your name.
Cash withdrawals are limited.
Think of the pre-nup as protecting you from looking foolish rather than
from giving any money to Rose. Without it she would realize that you have
little as soon as you married. That might prompt her exit. However the pre-nup
may be a gambit to keep your status in her eyes. She may not agree to not get anything, but she'll live the life without knowing there was nothing to get in the first place. It's risky. That's precisely why you haven't presented it to her yet.
Let's keep it simple. How about this: Stay away from Rose. Ignore her.
Let her take care of house cleaning and cooking. Evade any questions of
setting a wedding date. Assume she's fucking around, as you are. Fucking
your house guests right under your nose is another story, of course.
Thanks again for your work on this,
nc
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